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Living Like A Champion With The Grace Of A Gentleman

Hello dear viewers. I Sajal roy,previously recommended from Indian Army SSB Short Service Commission Technical Entry-43rd course(With merit, medical rejected) , takes an honor to write to you again. Thank you SSBCRACK for this opportunity. Over my past interaction with lot of ssb aspirants I realized what each one should know and therefore I am writing this lengthy article to be a complete summary for wining all your endeavors. I earlier had the opportunity too to write articles for ssbcrack and I am sure this article will do u good from every aspect .

#Making of the Personality .

  • Now the reason I am enforcing my thoughts into this topic is , that the ssb is a personality test too and therefore I want to suggest some habits by virtue of which it will imbibe optimism, positive self esteem, gratitude etc like qualities inside you.
  • Empathy: The attitude of feeling something by putting ourselves into other person’s shoes. This is of utmost importance when it comes to organizations having a real time environment with team work. So the best way to build it is:

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Do not try to enforce an opinion from your perspective on some else’s scenario. Try to look at the situation from other person’s point of view. Greet people with that amount of respect that u want to experience with your own self. Whenever someone says something harsh, do not immediately react. Rather respond, as response is always accompanied by a thought, and comprehend as to why the other person behaved in that way. The benefit of imbibing the empathy attitude is during GTO s and group discussion, u can handle the discussion with politeness and manners towards your team mates and in turn it will project a positive image about you. Try it simply from your homes like with parents and siblings. Once an action will take the shape of becoming a habit.

 

  • Gentleman Hood: This is in turn a very comprehensive word and a very diversified term. Though in simple words it signifies MannerFull Person. Yes being a gentleman is being polite, courteous, understanding, jovial etc. So how to develop them? I personally used to read lot of articles right since 11th standard regarding grooming myself into gentleman. Those days it was one of my most searched articles in google. Anyway the point being it is applicable to both men and women. For building a charismatic personality these are the things that I personally would endorse.1. Be considerate: For example if u see a man or someone in distress, have the courage enough to step up and resolve if there is any issue or any sort of help within your means and capability. Take the initiative. Take the lead.2. Hygiene and grooming:  Yes, do give importance to this. Dressing properly brings in the first attitude . So do it in all regards, be it in college exams or any exam or any such similar occasion . Also, the dressing carries a sense of respect. This doesn’t mean wearing brands but the right code. Like for example, during exams of my college days I preferred formals . So similarly apply the same to your life. Atleast try  it once and feel the difference.

    3. Grow up: We tend to get very much casual with our peers. And it is good too , but too much of it will tend to retard your shooting limits. So u know kinda grow up. Growing up in the sense means giving up the petty habits of criticism , negative talks, gossips on topic that don’t hold any importance and in return that brings headache to you. Maturity is with experience, so certainly participate with an attitude to gain experience, learn and preach.

    4. Make a habit of giving genuine and sincere compliments to anything good that u see. You never know what kind of difference you would have made by doing so. In the growing era of despair , a genuine compliment does make wonders. Start with your family first and then to everyone and everything good that u observe in someone. It can be someone’s speaking skills. It can be someone who has a good knowledgebase of facts. Remember , to appreciate a fellow  is the first great quality of a Leadership.

    5. Believe in hardwork and do spend time doing the work : At times we have certain goals and we are lured by the fantasy. But in the true sense of righteousness, fantasies don’t help much. So u need to stand up and work. Make the first move. Like if it is about the exam, chalk out the syllabus and keep a pen and paper in handy. With a paper at side and pen at hand , even the devil is not able much to distract the mind. Even if u draw marks or line while reading something. You would certainly experience that unknowingly you have been attentive for a huge while.   Similarly for SSBs, we get much lured with the fact that defense is all about cannons and guns and so forth. But we need to work towards getting through the selection process. Also , try your best , not to procrastinate and postpone things for tomorrow.

    6.  Last but not the least certain essential qualities of a gentleman attitude includes being chivalrous, being well behaved with people like butlers gatekeepers and other house keeping stuff,    being a good listener(very important in Group discussions and group planning excercises), being a person of word( Yes ! Try never to break a promise), an attitude to return any favor, remembering people with whom you come across in life, greeting with a smiling face , not involving into petty fights(no blurting out frustrations in GTOs ) , develop extensive reading habits (it will make u deep within) etc.

  • Optimism: This is the most important word. Signifies a large meaning in the broader base. The best and simple way to do so is keeping up the attitude. Even if u fai,l smile, even if u win,smile. Smile attitude scares the highest form of fear. Also , stop being a critic. Look around and always make effort to find the positive in howsoever negative the situation is. Even if it takes to find one fraction of a positive thing, do find it. This is very useful in PPDT, if there is any picture creating negative image make a positive conclusion of it. Appreciate the great governance. In Group discussion , it is easy to criticize but to appreciate it takes great deal. Look around in the internet for facts that how has the country developed and is developing day by day. Remember , whenever u mention something optimistic , it will be always alike as most of the people are interested to criticize. Everyone appreciates a positive conclusion and no one likes naysayers. So optimism is a practice of thinking, practicing and preaching only the positive aspects with smile. Try it from the smallest points in your life , in day to day living and see the huge difference it creates . It will be like watching the world from a different paradigm altogether.
  • Gratitude: Last but not the least this is one of the most important attitude. Attitude out of gratitude. Be thankful for the day, for the hour, for the minute , for the second. The feeling of gratitude brings u more of abundance. So start being thankful for this great life, this great nation, this great family, friends, circumstances whatsoever u can. For this I will suggest a simple practice. Each day before going to bed, write in a journal stating three things that you are grateful for. It can be about any person or any thing that your are grateful for  , like a circumstance too. If something good has happened mention happiness as the thanks giving, if something bad has happened thank the circumstance for it made u tough and taught u a lesson

So I recommend u all to try this gratitude exercise . It makes a huge difference in your day to day thinking.  Try to embrace solitude too as solitude is the best way to discover yourself. I am sure the above habits will somehow make a significant difference to your day to day living . Now coming to the ssb aspectLiving Like A Champion With The Grace Of A Gentleman

#Dealing with the SSB (PPDT, SRT, Group Discussion, Lecture giving, Group task and others)

  • To start with the intelligence test part, this requires just one thing. That is practice of those relevant questions especially non verbal and some more of reasoning types.
  • Coming to the group discussion and ppdt aspect in the screen in test : For ppdt , the mool mantra is , to write something positive, genuine , practical with an eye for a detail. Lets imagine that in the picture a person is walking and there are some buildings at the background. So we must not write that the person is walking and relating a story to it. Write into bit of detailing like; A 25 year old man, on his way from (say home) to (bus stop) or something relative as walking is always with a purpose i.e it can be a morning walk or walking from a source to a destination and therefore needs detailing. So the detailing aspect shows that u r a calm and immediate observer. Try not to write something with a visionary aspect , i.e too much into the imagnitive dimension.
    Now coming to the point of group discussion narration. Try begin with a punch when narrating. “Like this picture portrays optimism. In a personal opinion, there is a  (discuss the story here) and conclude with thanks.” Now when it comes to Group discussion try not to start it or rather wait for two or three seconds to see how the beginning is made. The punchline to win a group discussion is with facts and figures. The more facts and figures quoted and relative to the main theme, the higher is the probability that no other person will counter him and will get into agreement to that person. Thus , he/she wins as he/she is able to convince his/her point. Now there will always be a silent zone at times in a group discussion, so take the opportunity and point out to the silent zone members (“ I think we should include some points from our members  this side(pointing to them)”). This kind of attitude will help u win over with a leadership trait . This makes ur team members feel wanted and special.
    When discussing the story let it proceed like a discussion but at the end before you are asked to conclude try to conclude with an appreciation that each one has come up with different dimensions of optimism and so a combined theme including everyone’s opinion would be great.
  • After screen in, the PPDT , WAT, SRT etc : for this I would suggest practice writing . Writing with a correct grammar. See when we write a short essay , its better to include more details observed as I mentioned in the previous paragraph. But more importantly it is suggested that there should be a flow in the sequence. In PPDT, if u are describing a character make sure u describe everything about the character in a single go. For example : Rohan is a 25 year old man who hails from (name of place) and is pursuing a career in masters from so and so place. (Depends upon the picture too, I just have a random example) . So when describing describe it completely and don’t include something haphazardly in between . Maintain a proper sequential flow of thoughts and write the conclusion in a good way. Like use lines: “The picturesque gives an inspiring conclusion in regards to”………. For SRTs I would advise, please and please be honest. Do that what you really would have done and don’t write to impress others. Try to be genuine but optimistic. Last but not the least there should be a legible handwriting. WAT is a fast moving game, so write short specific and good sentences. At times for one or two words u can use phrases too. Write positive for negative words too. Like : Death- Death is the moment of farewell to life. And so forth. : Blood- Blood bridges the gap between life and death. So I hope u are getting the picture.
  • For GD and lecture. : See here Is the thing. There are certain basic needs that one should know being a citizen of India. Like current happenings, social sector, education sector, political sector, economic sector. U need not know much, just know them in order to relate to any topic as most of the lecture topics or group discussion topics revolve around them. See being educated is being wise. And a wise person will always be able to convince the rest . Be very gentle in your approach. Treat the group with immense respect. Be generous enough to point and make others speak who are not getting the chance to speak. When the GD is turning out to be a fish market stay silent for a second and then bombard some good lines like, “With due respect to all opinions I personally would like to advocate based on certain facts…………(mention your point of view) ………..please state your opinions and what you all feel about this”. These kind of statements speak a lot about u . So for those 5 days try to be the best gentleman and most well behaved person.
  • For group tasks and all whenever there is a fuss and confusion , and if u happen to find something , then state to the group. “Dear gentlemen , there is something I would to say with all your consent” . Automatically u will see the group getting into a listening position and u will have your say. So u know, do keep your behavior at prime importance and never feel that such efforts go un noticed.
  • For the interview one needs to be abreast with the most recent issues like joint exercise of bilateral nations, hot terror issues, presidents of countries who are in current affairs , technical knowledge (basics) of the subjects, equivalent ranks in the defense forces, insignia, divisions of the defense and latest induction of weapon systems and weapon testing news. Apart from that be very respectful, mannered and have infinite confidence. Allow no one to break it even if u have answered questions wrongly. Look into the eyes of the interviewer, answer each question in a relaxed mind with a smile.

#My personal message to all Aspirants

Thanks for the immense patience for reaching till here. So finally the end of this article. See dear friends, life is too short so set all worries and anxiety aside. Don’t get bothered by any amount of rejection , keep trying. Over the course of time it is true that we get exhausted with efforts, but if there is any single person on earth who is doing the task then u can also do. Apart from that my medical rejection has convinced me that life and destiny are related, luck indeed plays a factor. Even a person who is on a wheel chair is equally patriotic and has the equal desire to tear the skies apart , but alas he/she is struck by luck. So I would say  don’t leave any stone unturned in life. Presently I am 23 year old and this year I l be writing all sorts of exams including Central Armed Police forces (CAPF), Civil services etc. Keep trying and keep trying. Competition is with you as to how better are you today from yesterday. Even if there is a slight increment , cherish it and be thankful. If at your first attempt u got screened out and in the next conference out then do cherish that increment too. Be a great human and believe to share. Do preach what u know , its really a great feeling to mentor others. Remember , never feel insecured to share as no one can take away you from you.  Last but not the least love your nation. This is a great country , where always at the end of the day we stand united. It even takes goosebumps to imagine how hard it was to establish the constitution and the country. So much time and efforts have resulted this great nation. Always appreciate and spend your time finding the best in everything you see. Spend your time searching in the internet as to what are the various developments taking place and dwell on them. Each and every government servant is a pillar to the nation. The civilians being the taxpayers form an incredible and indirect part of this development too.Try participating in all type of activities and contests. Be abreast with current affairs from sources like www.gktoday.in  and https://nirdeshak.com/  .

And as a suggestion keep daily short term goals , start with just one goal like covering so and so aspect of the study and all. Then increment it to higher number of goals. As and when u accomplish the goal reward yourself and congratulate yourself. Remember, paper and pen would be your best friends to avoid any distraction and also during introspection. Try exploring people out, know about them . Most of time you will observe folks beating their own self trumpets . Instead be at ground 0 and explore the other person. U would love to see the different dimensions of an individual.  So with this I take my leave and wish u all the best for not just SSB but all sorts of endeavors in your life.

ALL THE BEST

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My earlier articles posted by SSBCrack.

  1. https://ssbcrack.com/2015/05/recommended-by-the-indian-army-from-ssb-bhopal.html
  2. https://ssbcrack.com/2015/05/in-conversation-with-sajal-roy-recommended-for-indian-army.html
  3. https://ssbcrack.com/2015/09/reply-from-a-recommended-candidate-to-an-open-letter-to-the-ssb-boards.html
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Sajal Roy
Sajal Roy
Sajal Roy, Recommended from 22 SSB Bhopal (Indian Army) First attempt, with Merit, Medical Out-SSC TECH 43rd Entry-June 2014.
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